Thursday, February 9, 2012

7yr. Old Girl Fights off Child Molester at WalMart

If you have read about my CARE training (Child Awareness Rapid Escape) we are all about teaching our children to fight back against predators. I tell my children, and I urge the parents of the children who attend the CARE Classes that we need to teach our children HOW and WHEN to use violence to protect themselves. The little girl in the link below may or may not have had prior training, but she trusted her instincts and fought with all she had to get this monster away from her. Kudos to her and to her teachers!


http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2012/02/caught-on-tape-girl-fights-off-wal-mart-kidnapper/


In CARE we not only teach the children we also have them do the training for real against a man wearing a full body Redman suit. The research shows that stress is one of the best ways to retain skills. Thats why we are all about keeping things as realistic as possible at Fight Like A Girl - Akron. Stay Safe!




tags: Children violence kidnapping assault self defense anti-abduction

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Sextortion: Are you positive that your daughter is not sexting?

I usually don't repost other people's blogs; but i though this was too important not to pass along. It comes from JJ Luna's most excellent blog:  http://blog.invisible-privacy.com 

Monday, October 17, 2011

ARE YOU POSITIVE THAT YOUR DAUGHTER’S NOT SEXTING?


That’s what the parents of three teenage girls in Indianapolis, Indiana thought. Nevertheless, at a party with a webcam, they visited an Internet chat room. One thing let to another, and the boys at the other end dared them to flash their breasts. They did, but no problem, right? The boys were in some other state, far away, and they’d never hear from them again.

A week passed. Then one of the girls received a series of threats by e-mail. She was told to either email more explicit pictures and videos of herself , “or I’ll post your pictures to all your MySpace friends.”

Did the girl then confess to her parents what she had done? No, she complied with his demand at least twice. (Police and federal authorities eventually became involved and indicted a 19-year-old Maryland man for the crime of "sextortion.”)

SEXTORTION IS INCREASING

Teens are more vulnerable to blackmail because they're easy to intimidate and embarrassed to tell their parents. The result is that they will do almost anything to keep naked pictures of themselves from getting out.

Alabama.
          Jonathan, 24, extorted nude photos from more than 50 young women who were on Facebook or MySpace.

Wisconsin.
          Anthony, 18, posed as a girl on Facebook to trick male high school classmates into sending him nude cell phone photos, which he then used to extort them for sex.

California.
          A 31-year-old man hacked into more than 200 computers and threatened to expose nude photos he found unless their owners (many of them juveniles) posed for more sexually explicit videos.

Here is a suggestion to any of you parents with a teen daughter. Have a dead serious talk with her about the danger of sexting. Explain that if, despite your warnings, she takes some revealing pictures of herself and sends them to anyone on Planet Earth, she may soon get a threat to take and send more pictures, or else. Kindly explain to her that she will at this point have two options:

Plan A. She can confess to you and ask for your help. There will be some consequences such as grounding involved, but this will pass and you love her and will help her.

Plan B. She can submit to the threats and send the blackmailer whatever he asks for. Explain that this will eventually come to light anyway and at that point, life as she’s known it will disappear.

Saturday, October 1, 2011

NYPD Advises Women Not to Wear Skirts....

New York City realizing that there sexual assault problem has gone through the roof has gone and done the unfathomable. Tell women not to wear shorts, skirts, or dresses. Whats next chastity belts?


"He pointed at my outfit and said, 'Don't you think your shorts are a little short?'" she told the Journal. "He pointed at their dresses and said they were showing a lot of skin."
The officer also told them that "you're exactly the kind of girl this guy is targeting," according to Lauren. NYPD spokesman Paul Browne said the officers "are simply pointing out that as part of the pattern involving one or more men that the assailant(s) have targeted women wearing skirts."

While there is a correlation with the police understanding that the predators are attacking women who wear certain clothing the problem is that they're falling into a trap of believing that the victim somehow precipitated the crime, or asked for the crime to happen. Which is in fact totally incorrect and inappropriate - the police in turn should be seeking to inform the citizenry of the problem, provide or advocate deterrents to the population (gasp "legalize concealed weapons permits"), and increase patrols within the area to be proactive against the crime of rape. 


Thursday, June 16, 2011

Information Security

What you say-what you do- gives clues and hints to potential assailants; don't leave unnecessary information available to rapists and attackers. Or identity thieves

Ever hear a so called expert on self-protection say things like "if they grab your purse, give it to them, its replaceable"? Well if you give them your purse guess what they now have? Pictures of you, your address, emergency contact numbers, pictures of your kids or other loved ones, maybe where you work, where you hang out, what gym you go to, and on and on. Do you really want them to know all of this about you? What happens if that mugger becomes a stalker?

Think about it... all your vital documents are in your purse, its essentially your lifeline. Maybe the purse snatcher is trying to develop a better understanding of who you are because they are 'love at first sight' potential stalker. An exercise that you and a lady friend can do together is to trade purses and see how much information they can figure out on each other. From here now begin to trim down that which is extraneous and not necessary or prepare to fight for your purse and wallet because it is your informational lifeline. In the military this is known as PERSEC Personal Security and its important that you practice it. 

Awhile back I bought a jogging stroller on an internet auction site. It wasn't available for delivery so I had to go and pick it up. The woman who owned it said I could pick it up any time and "that she keeps late hours and lives alone" (mentally I was shouting don't reveal this kind of information to a stranger!). This is clearly a violation of PERSEC.

Also, think about what you throw out in the trash, could someone who went through your trash develop a considerable dossier on you (what kind of mail you get, credit card statements, magazines you read, places  you shop, etc.). Anything with my name, bank account, personal information, or financial info either gets shredded or burned.  Other things to keep in mind are your cellphone; if this gets stolen and it has relationship references in their then someone can easily use the information to find you. For instance your cellphone says Mom & Dad on the number. They now have the number and if its a land line its not hard to do a reverse phone number look up and get the vital info on your folks. Now they could call them up and pretend to be a long lost friend looking to get back in touch with you. Yikes! What about the GPS in your car; is it programmed to take you to your home? Same thing; this violates PERSEC! Program home to be the local police station or some other innocuous location that you know how to get to your home. 

The topic of PERSEC is huge in the way of FORCE PROTECTION; or how we protect our loved ones. Though in the simplest forms its basically keeping pertinent details of your life, location, and circumstances away from people who don't need to know. 

In all regards... Stay Safe!





Monday, June 13, 2011

Summer 2011 Hiatus

I haven't posted in awhile. Things on our end have been fairly busy with the birth of our son, Hunter Olen we've been fairly busy, and unfortunately I have been remiss to write. Plus several other side projects. New articles are forthcoming and in the works. We will be hosting classes (Fight Like A Girl I & II, Child Awareness Rapid Escape) in the Fall both at Akron and Canton venues.

Sunday, March 27, 2011

Spring Update

Spring is here (at least thats what I keep telling myself). :-) 


I'm sorry I haven't updated my blog in such a long time. I have been particular busy on the guy side of things (which is Life Force Protection, LLC). We are taking a lot of the material that we have developed and putting it into a template for non-profit work. With the hopes of pushing it out for everyone's benefit. 


With that said, here's whats new with Fight Like A Girl - Akron: 
  1. We have had considerable interest in the Child Awareness Rapid Escape course. We ran a community event at Akron Children's in February and we had a phenomenal turnout of 68 children - yikes! I was sore after that class. Because of the demand for this course we are changing our fee structure to be more inclusive: CARE Classes will be valued at $150 for up to 30 children. This makes for a great way to offer this material to scout troops, church groups, social clubs, and large families!
  2. We have combined the techniques from DAW (Defense Against Weapons) and GOG (Girls on Guard) to bring you a much more developed format that is congruent with the realities of street self defense (gross motor based, easy to remember, and use). 
  3. Lastly, I've gotten feedback from people who have been to my classes and have told me that what I said about freezing when you are attacked is true. How can you offset this? remember to start talking to your attacker, get your hands up (even if you are down); talking and motion engage your brain to snap out of the Survival Stress Reaction and then commit to a course of action and do not stop! I know this because it has happened to me as well. Practice, builds muscle memory. Come to more of our classes, teach your friends; get a training partner. 
Our next class is listed below. 

Stay Safe!




Friday, November 26, 2010

Righteous Violence (Bullying)

There's been a lot of discussion in the media in the past few months on the topic of bullies and bullying. Stories abound of teens who commit suicide because of bullying. It seems that the topic of bullying whether through physical abuse, verbal abuse, or through electronic media (texting, email, facebook) its as if the American psyche is wondering "how did we go so wrong? why are our children doing this to each other?". The fact that teens/ children (and adults) are often very cruel to each other should not come as a shock to parents. Look around you'll see that depravity unfortunately seems to be a human condition that we sometimes just can't shake out of our gene pool. Whether you approach the topic from an ecclesiastical point of view or a humanist point of view it doesn't matter that the fact that this has been going on for a very long time is evident. 


I don't claim to be an expert on childhood bullying. But having been bullied through much of adolescence and having former bullies apologize to me later in life - i think have a unique first person perspective on the issue. I can say that often we teach our children the absolute wrong things to do and that carries repercussions into life that are much more far reaching and devastating. On of those damaging piece of advice that I received was "fighting doesn't solve anything" or "just walk away". 

I beg to differ. 


In my last post on How To Survive a Massacre, Pt. 2 I mentioned noted author and psychologist on human aggression, Lt. Col Dave Grossman who during his speaking topic on "The Bulletproof Mind" he said that at the Virginia Tech Massacre, several students were found sitting in their seats dead from a single bullet wound to their head. That means that they sat and waited knowing the killer was executing people 1 by 1.

Why weren't they trying to fight back or at least hide? Grossman says we are teaching our children the absolute wrong things to do. "Don't fight on the playground Johnny" is what they have heard day in and day out. But are we seriously going to tell our teenage sons and daughters (and adult children) "don't fight back against murders and rapists!" NO OF COURSE NOT. But then why are we are teaching a double message?


According to Grossman, and I agree wholeheartedly; we must be teaching our children that the judicious use of righteous violence is not only acceptable but it is honored within society. So how do we teach judicious use of violence. I like Ron Lauinger's  3 Rules for dealing with bullies:
  1. Tell the bully to stop, if he/she doesn't stop then
  2. Tell the teacher, if the teacher doesn't stop it then;
  3. Fight back
While, I can't be certain that fighting back always works its often the response that the bully wasn't planning for. Life changed for me when a bully in high school knocked my lunch tray out of my hands and on to the floor. Instead of just trying to salvage the moment and going on with life, I reacted, I punched him square in the face. The lunchroom teacher grabbed my arm and jerked me around asking "why I did that?" My reply was "he knocked my lunch out of my hands what am I supposed to eat now?". Its interesting that I didn't get a detention or an expulsion. 

The other interesting part about that was I wasn't bullied again. Righteous justice. 


Will that work in the school system nowadays? I don't know. With all the zero-tolerance behavior support modification (BTW how is that working?) its tough for a child to even remotely respond. And then issues of cyber-bullying which often don't include physical assault require a different tact.

But ask yourself what is the more important life lesson to teach your child? don't fight back, be a victim the rest of your life? Or if you do fight back and it is judicious we will stand up with you and go to bat for you?  I have chosen the latter with my children.


Its a rough world out there.


Stay Safe!

Monday, November 15, 2010

How to Survive a Massacre Part 2

How to Survive a Massacre Part 2

In part 1 we discussed the difference between cover, concealment, distance, and using 'dead space' to hide us from the killer or his/ her line of sight/ weapons fire. We could consider this as Getting Out and Hiding Out.

Now lets talk about what to do if we can't find cover, concealment, or dead space. You might think of this as Lock Out, Call Out, and Fight Out. If your thinking to yourself "hey there's a lot of 'outs' here" well your definitely ahead of the game. What we are doing is what is called the Out Drill. I can't really take credit for it. The guy who developed this is Lt. Col. Dave Grossman, PhD who is bar none one of the experts on violence in society.

Lock Out: Its pretty simple since you can't get out. You put enough barricade between you and the Killer. If that means that you can lock doors great! Sometimes though doors don't lock so you have to be creative. That means you move things in front of the door to make a barricade. If its in a school you use desks, chairs, blackboards. Everything and anything you can find to barricade the entrance. I also heard about a scenario where someone let loose lions, rhinos, and tigers in a zoo and people were being mauled. Guess what some of the survivors did? thats right they piled into the restrooms (since they were made of block) and barricaded the doors with everything they could find. Which meant taking the doors off the stalls and wedging them between the door handle and the floor. In these situations you use whatever you can to save your life. Now is not the time to be concerned with property damage. Something else that works really well is a door stop. Rubber and wooden wedges used to hold doors open can also be used to hold doors shut.

Call Out: In Fight Like A Girl you'll hear us say things like "you have to stop the killing". The best way to do that is to get help. Never assume that someone else is calling for help. When people are taught CPR they are specifically instructed to point to someone and say "you go call 911 and report back when you have done so". In a high stress situation people do not always think straight or function well. Therefore you may have to become direct, even verbally aggressive with someone to get help "YOU CALL 911 ON YOUR CELL PHONE " (yes I am shouting) "TELL THEM THAT YOU ARE AT___________AND SOME GUY IS SHOOTING PEOPLE WITH A (rifle or pistol, if you don't know just say rifle)". Why rifle vs. pistol? Because someone with a rifle is a much greater threat than a pistol and it will bring a lot more firepower to bear on the S.O.B. So what happens if you can't call, maybe you don't have a cellphone or can't get to it? How about one of these things:



No it won't bring the SWAT Team, but it will bring the 'Combat Engineers'. Several angry guys with axes, fire hoses and ladders. They can make openings in walls and get people out. They can fight the shooter with high pressure water cannons, and they can put the guys with guns onto the roof or into second story windows. And where there is fire there will also likely be police cars. That is people with guns who will find and kill the killer.

So now that we are talking about killing the killer, our last way to survive a massacre is to do the unexpected and that is Fight Back or Fight it Out. For whatever reason you are in a situation where you cannot Hide Out, Get out, Lock Out, Call Out and imminent death is upon you. You must fight it out. There are countless stories where 2 or 3 people have tackled a killer and subdued him. But how do you fight? Ideally with a weapon, if your in the office, throw anything that is big or solid (trashcans, staplers, weighted tape dispenser, chairs, 3 hole punch, etc.). Throw these at his head. If you must close with him either try to knock him/her down or use a pen, pencil, letter opener, and anything that you can direct a good amount force with (sharp or blunt doesn't matter - actually blunt objects that impale hurt more) and keep striking the person in the face and eyes. Don't stop! Even if you are shot never stop. Nobody ever died of a broken bone, keep fighting or retreating. Tell yourself, I am not going to die here! I will live to a ripe old age! Mindset is everything.

Your probably thinking. Brian you are crazy. Yes. But that's beside the point.In today's schools they are now teaching students to do this very thing. The training is called ALiCE and it teaches kids these very same principles. But why stop in schools? Even if your workplace isn't forward thinking you should be! Look around, consider your escape routes, where can you go to Lock Out, what can you use for cover or concealment, lastly what can you use to fight it out? Personal safety isn't just a right, its a responsibility. use it.

Stay Safe!

Friday, October 22, 2010

Practice Session

Ladies,
I'll be holding a practice session on Wednesday Nov. 10 from 6pm-9pm at 215 W. Bowery Street, Akron, OH / Conference Rooms 5 & 6. 

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Unlike regular classes, there is no anticipated course plan. I'll be there with the mats and Redman Suit, and some fake weapons for DAW. We can cover anything you want from FLAG, GOG, and DAW.
Cost is $5 for the evening. Come in at any time, leave at any time. This is a great way to brush up on your skills. Please RSVP if you plan to attend so I can have enough gear available.
Thanks and Stay Safe!

What happened to "How to Survive a Massacre Pt.2"? Its a comin! Still in the works.

Thursday, September 16, 2010

How to Survive a Massacre

In the realm of security and law enforcement the term ‘Active Shooter’ is parlance for a person who walks into a building or area with a firearm and starts shooting people. Lt. Col. Dave Grossman, PhD states; “let’s not call them ‘active shooters’, shooters are people who go to gun clubs and shoot for entertainment, let’s call these people what they are; ‘active killers’. I like Col. Grossman phrasing better so that’s what I’ll use for the remainder of this blog entry. Several past incidents include; The Discovery Channel Massacre, the Fort Hood Massacre, the Virginia Tech Massacre, or the Mumbai Massacre (hey, you may be traveling!). Psychologists and criminologists all have several theories and hypotheses for why someone goes on a shooting rampage – but few offer realistic options for people who find themselves in an active killer scenario. Every situation is different and it is impossible to try to say this is the solution for all Active Killer scenarios. While this would stop some consultant from providing advice on what to do we at Fight Like A Girl – Akron feel it’s a good starting point. The information is presented from the standpoint of someone who does not have a weapon and/or is not prepared to return fire/ shoot back (e.g. your children).
First off believe what you are seeing or hearing. In past columns I have written about getting into a person’s decision making process or their OODA Loop (Observe-Orient-Decide- Act). Events around you will be transpiring quickly, you may or may not see the active killer, you may or may not see the victims or the trauma involved (which may include blood), you may see people running, screaming, yelling, you may hear what sounds like ‘firecrackers’ (if you haven’t the experience of being around firearms), you may smell smoke or see bursts of flame. These are all realistic indicators that something is terribly wrong. Believe what you are seeing or hearing! Now let your OODA loop work; Observe what is taking place, Orient (where is the killer, which way is s/he shooting, where is safety), Decide (what am I going to do), and then Act (do what you have decided). If you are afraid, tell yourself ‘fear is normal’ then act!
Secondly, what is safe? Safety usually means to find a place that has what is commonly known as ‘cover’ or ‘concealment’. Cover is what will stop a bullet or fragmentation (bombs, grenades). Cover can most likely be summed up as “is it concrete, steel, or large amounts of dirt?” Concrete planters and vehicle engines are good ‘cover’.






Anything else that hides you from the view of the killer is to be considered ‘concealment’. Also, cover and concealment is to be considered temporary. If the shooter moves around so that you are no longer protected by the cover or concealment then you need to move. Now here’s a nugget of information that you’d have to spend several hundreds of dollars for at those fancy shooting schools; ‘don’t hog cover’. Hogging cover is when you see someone getting up as close as possible to what they call cover. Hogging cover robs you of your field of vision. By backing away from the cover you stay protected but also are able to see around the edges of cover in case the murderer starts to move around to your vantage point.
Concealment on the other hand is what will hide you, but not stop a bullet. Although you must overcome the killer’s weapon you can also overcome his/her mind as well. However, concealment is always the 2nd choice: you want cover, but you may have to settle for concealment (temporarily). If you can get to something that conceals you from the killer . The row of porta-potties below is an example of concealment (from behind them). A personal bias on my part but I would not hide in the porta-potty; not because it is bad concealment, but because it takes my vantage point and my mobility away.







Another aspect of cover and concealment is the use of what is known as ‘dead space’. It is amazing how little information is available on the web with regard to this topic. Dead Space refers to a spatial cavity or location that bullets cannot get into based on their trajectory (i.e. depressions in the ground/ or behind hills …dare I say grassy knolls?). Even in urban areas there are drainage ditches and small bowls in the ground that would be considered dead space/ good cover. People who are current or former military have a good understanding of what this is. You can develop your own perception on dead space by looking for ditches or depressions in the landscape/ landscape formations where you go and where you work. Something to keep in mind is that vegetation that is planted for ground cover often grows at a uniform height and can ‘hide’ dead space. Look for how the ground lays out.
Lastly, distance can be a good measure of safety from an active killer. Leaving the area, putting multiple doors and walls between you and the shooter is often the best remedy. Get behind cover and keep moving away from the shooter. If you are in an open area and there isn’t cover, concealment, or dead space run offline (at a 45 or 90 degree angle) of the killer. It is always harder to shoot at a moving target versus a stationary target. Get away and keep moving away!
In part 2 we’ll look at what to do if you are close to the killer and what to do if you are shot by the killer.
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Sunday, July 25, 2010

Less than 1%

back in June we were in New York again for Fight Like A Girl re certification and new course material added to our class formats. While in NY I heard an interesting statistic, not sure if it is empirical, but it does sum up a good amount of anecdotal truth; less than 1% of the US population know anything of real fighting or combatives. Which probably attributes to why most bad guys will break off an attack if there is significant resistance put forth by the person who is being attacked. Criminals prefer easy targets. While at Rape Escape's East Coast Academy I ran into two guys who do Sayoc Knife Fighting as their primary martial art. I thought I knew something about knife fighting (mostly to run away!). This further confirmed that there is quite a bit to knife fighting that I don't know alot about. Thankfully there is probably less of that 1% statistic of the population that knows anything about the real use of bladed weapons. Ironic that the next course I was getting a certification in was the 3rd module in the Women's Empowerment Series - Defense Against Weapons.

Defense Against Weapons, known by its short name DAW, addresses real life situations where the attacker is using a weapon to augment his techniques. In the course we address the following issues:
  • Weapon psychology and dynamics of blades, guns, clubs, and flexibles (strangulation).
  • Defense against being choked whether from the defensive position or from being straddled on your chest.
  • Defense against an attacker holding a knife against your throat either parallel or across your neck.
  • Defense against being stabbed
  • What to do if you are attacked from behind with a weapon
  • What to do if the attacker is hitting you with a club
  • What to do if the attacker is holding a gun to your head (or any part of your body)
  • What to do when all else fails
All of this done with the same 'watch/ then do' training philosophy that is used in Fight Like A Girl coupled with stress inoculation training with the Redman Suit. We have already scheduled DAW & Fight Like A Girl Classes at North Canton Community Education and Green YMCA. By the middle of August we should have some classes scheduled with our other venues as well. In any case if you have questions or comments please send them. And above all....

Stay Safe!

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Hesitation

Often in my classes students will ask me "what if my mind goes blank when I am attacked or I hesitate?". Good question. My proverbial answer is "so what? no one is grading you or rating how well you fight back. The truth is; use this time to your advantage".

Hesitation its actually natural ; its hardwired into your body. Consider it this way; you have just been assaulted by a man, he may be at the pre-violence interview stage or the attack may be ensuing and at this point he is trying to gain control of you either by force or intimidation. Your body is going through extreme stress that is common to the Survival Stress Reaction. In the OODA loop that I have written about in the past this is when you are in the stage of Observing and Orienting to what is going on. Because you are rarely exposed to personal combat on a regular basis you are more than likely going to freeze or hesitate for a few seconds. Hesitation is better than freezing though!

Use this time to collect your thoughts, also verbalize what you are feeling. By talking you begin to engage a portion of your brain that also leads to action. Say something, anything; "don't do this stop, don't hurt me, I have an STD". Initiating a role-play will do 2 things. Firstly, it gives you time to recall your training and develop an action-escape plan. Secondly; it begins to get into his OODA Loop as well because now he is Observing (hearing) and Orienting (to your speech). Your role-play helps you to work through your fear as well. When you have formulated your plan launch your defense and DO NOT STOP! At this point all hesitation must be gone you have to strike without fear or regret.

If your defense doesn't go the way you expected, keep going. In the Fight Like A Girl videos you have seen how some of the girls improvised new strikes 'on the fly' during the Redman encounters, do the same. Also, remember that your environment can help you or hinder you. Is that chair in the way or is it something that you can use to strike your attacker? What else is laying around that might be used as a weapon. The common inocuous item like a food jar or a stapler can have devastating effects when you strike someone in the head. Never underestimate anything and NEVER STOP FIGHTING AND FLEEING.

Stay Safe!

Thursday, April 29, 2010

Pepper Spray

A weekend or so ago, I had the opportunity to do some training with PepperSpray. Mind you I have done this on two other occasions and as I recall it wasn't very fun. Those two other occasions were basically; "here step up and get sprayed and then enjoy rinsing your face off in the puke basin". This time was a bit different; it was run in stages.
  1. Stage 1; Get sprayed
  2. Stage 2; Move to a punching dummy and engage for 10-30 seconds
  3. Stage 3; Move to an empty semi-automatic rifle. Load empty magazine, cycle the weapon, drop the trigger, reload, and then do it again, then drop the mag.
  4. Stage 4; Then move to a dummy drag to simulate a man down. Pull 'him' to a safe location.
  5. Stage 5; Radio in for assistance at safe location.

Doing all of this was difficult, to say the least. I can say upfront that by the time I got to Stage 2 I knew I was in trouble. My eyesight was pretty well gone and the pain was coming on like a freight train. I knew that the impending decontamination stage was not going to be fun. Pepper Spray always effects me badly. For this training we were using FOX Labs 5.3 SHU Law Enforcement Grade Pepper Spray. SHU means Scoville Heat Units. According to FOX Labs:

Most pepper sprays are between 1/2 million and 2 million shu. Fox pepper spray is refined to 5.3 million shu, that's like the difference in heat between paper burning and a blue-hot blowtorch (about 451 degrees F vs 2000
degrees F.) However, because of its unique formulation it does not blister
the skin. Public law enforcement agencies across the USA are using Fox Labs
OC pepper spray and Fox Labs Products.




I don't know about the last part though, as several of us had some light
blisters/ 1st degree burns below our eyes. Nothing earth shattering, and it cleared
up in a few days, but it was still mildly irritating 24 hrs later. Now for
the stuff they don't tell you. The Paramedic on standby said the
pain would last about 20 minutes. Yeah right. More like an hour and a half.
One guy had trouble controlling his breathing (he could breathe, but there was a
definitive psychological component to it). My face felt like it was
literally on fire, my eyes were swelled shut, and I had a load of snot coming out of
both nostrils. Also, I have experienced a feeling of being 'locked up' that stems from having a partially engaged gag reflex as well as hyperventilation. This time though I was able to control my breathing better and get through this. Though it did not diminish the pain in any way. The only light in the tunnel was a cold water hose and the cool breeze that was also blowing (which later led me to get out of my wet clothes as I realized I was getting into mild hypothermia). Of the 8 guys who
went through this, only 2 of them completed the entire course stages. However, all of us were incapacitated within a few minutes after being hit with the spray.

If you are going to carry Pepper Spray I recommend you carry the FOX Labs 5.3 SHU Law Enforcement Grade. I was able to buy this at D&G Uniforms in Akron. But just about any gun store or uniform shop should carry it. Also, I would get the stream, instead of the cone. The reason I advocate 'streams' over 'cones' (which has to do with the output of the spray; a straight line or a cone shaped pattern) is that there is less chance of overspray or blowback. We were training on a windy day and some of the staff were caught with the overspray from a different PepperSpray brand that dispersed as a cone. Though no one experienced blowback from the fine stream. Also, I'd recommend that you experience pepper spray by putting a little bit on your hand (be prepared to put it in a cold bucket of water) so that you have some idea of what it does in case you do experience a blowback. It is wicked stuff!

Monday, April 5, 2010

Fight Like A Girl - Refresher & Intro Courses

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month and Fight Like A Girl! - Akron will be hosting free 1 hour refresher courses/ Introductory Courses on April 28th at 7:00 PM and 8:00PM. Course location will be 215 W. Bowery Street, Akron, OH 44308. Classroom 5 & 6 in the Considine Professional Bldg.

We'll be teaching the 6 rules of FLAG, social distance, and the defensive position to new people as well. If you want to catch up on old skills, or introduce your friends to Fight Like A Girl this is the perfect opportunity. RSVP is appreciated, but not necessary. These courses are at no charge.

Monday, March 22, 2010

Frames of Reference





At lunch the other day a colleague of mine, was mentioning that she was fearful the other night when she came into her apartment building foyer and found a homeless man sleeping there. Under normal circumstances this young rising professional, is a caring and compassionate lady, who often works with an indigent client population - yet this time she said she felt particularly vulnerable even though the man was doing nothing but sleeping in the hallway. While she felt some guilt on behalf of her own concerns I reminded her that she shouldn't be ashamed for being fearful. After all the human emotion of fear is a gift - according to Gavin de Becker. Why she felt fearful was because the incident was outside of her frame of reference. This incident was isolated from her normal day to day activities - as it has never happened before or at 1100 pm in the evening. This is something not normal for Akronites. However if she lived in the Bronx (NYC) where my cousin is from, it would be a normal day.

The reason some people are fearful of one thing, while others are not is based on Capt. John Boyd's theory on the OODA Loop. A mental process that every human being goes through on a regular basis. OODA stands for the process of Observing, then Orienting, then Deciding and the Acting. The picture below provides a visual representation of this split second decision making model.


The bubble with 'previous experiences' could be what we call the Frame of Reference. Things that fall outside of our references tend to create emotions especially fear. Fear in turn then drives the survival stress reaction. This is why when I provide lectures on Personal Safety or Violence Mitigation in the workplace i remind people that its OK for them to be afraid and to have perceptual distortions and physical distress when they are exposed to violence. Because, for most people, violence is outside of their frame of reference. They are otherwise, not socialized to the real impact of violence (despite what Hollywood portrays). I say most people, because outside of the military, some police and other civilians regularly train to diminish the effects of the survival stress reaction.

In any ways, how can we use the understanding of the Frame of Reference to protect ourselves? What's the Fourth Rule of Fight Like A Girl? Attract Attention. If we can get into the bad guy's OODA Loop we maybe able to short circuit his plan. Coach Tony Blauer, advocates trying to always find the disconnect in a situation. See the youtube video here for a real life example of using the disconnect (warning: profanity). In the video you'll see Tony Blauer getting into his enemy's OODA loop by playing on his 3 principles.

Hope this helps, Stay Safe!


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BTW, here is a picture of my wife hosting our table at the Akron Childrens' Hospital Wellness Fair.


Monday, February 15, 2010

Raid Panacea?

Awhile back one of my client's asked about using Wasp Spray as a means to defend yourself, ala mace/ pepper spray. This is kind of a new one on me - I'd never heard of anyone advocating this (note to self: try to actually watch some TV on occasion). So I had to do some looking. The first place was google, which led me to snopes.com. According to the rumor; a can of wasp spray shoots farther (20ft.) than pepper spray, its a powerful inflammatory that will instantly cause their eyes to shut, and will cause the esophagus, trachea and resp. system to contract and inhibit breathing. My interest was piqued. There 's even a video from a self-defense expert on the use of wasp spray. Interesting.

Despite, these greatly touted claims, I have a bit more empirical mindset when it comes to testing rumors like these. First of all let me go on record as saying I am not a fan of chemical irritants/ non-lethal sprays. I'll state my reasons here:
  1. They are hard to deploy. While working hospital security I used to carry a can on my duty belt. I only needed to swivel it up to pull it off my belt and then flip up the velcro tab to fire it. Can be done with one hand; but not easily. Try carrying it in your purse (can you imagine carrying a wasp spray can in a purse? Better be a big purse!). Most people don't wear duty belts and thus the can goes somewhere else. Also, if you are outdoors and its raining - how effective do you think the spray will be?
  2. Chemical irritants, contrary to popular belief, do not immediately incapacitate people. Thats utter BS. I have been sprayed with OC Pepper Spray during training classes and while it does hurt (there's reason cops call it "Liquid Hell"), I can guarantee that I can still run, shoot, and fight hand to hand. In fact this is standard practice on many police dept. physical entrance exams. Against a determined attacker (stalker, abusive spouse/ boyfriend, etc) - do not expect this to stop them. Have a back up plan.
  3. Expect blowback. If you use a chemical irritant it is possible that it could blow back against you. Rooms with fans or being outdoors where there is wind can cause a deployed chemical to come back and hit you. Another reason why police are sensitized to pepper spray (stress inoculation anyone?). Fortunately, both Wasp Spray and Pepper Spray only require flushing with water to cut the effects. See below.
  4. Chemical spray irritants are often used incorrectly. Police use it as a distraction prior to handcuffing the subject. Defenders often seek to use it to 'hurt' an attacker which is the wrong approach. Don't get me wrong I am not feeling sorry for the attacker. But the correct technique should be to use a chemical spray as a barrier or shield to keep someone away while providing you the opportunity to escape.
So that being said we're still back at square one; Is a can of Wasp Spray better than Pepper Spray. I'll believe the claim that it can shoot farther. No doubt about that. Wasp Spray is a bigger can, has more aerosol pushing it. Just make sure that there is nobody behind the attacker that you wouldn't want to send to the hospital.

Is worse, hotter, more painful? Hmmm good question. Pepper Spray is rated in Scoville Heat Units. Law Enforcement Grade Pepper Spray is between 500,000 - 5,300,000 (ouch). Unfortunately, nobody has tested Wasp Spray on the basis of being an irritant. Therefore we need to look at it from its chemical makeup; pyrethrin. This is actually beyond my research scope so I went and asked a hospital Pharmacologist who is also an expert in toxicology. Here is the gist of my interview:

1. Is wasp spray (pyrethrin) an acute irritant? Yes, the wasp spray could be an irritant to the eyes that can result in corneal damage and to the lungs resulting in asthma exacerbations, wheezing, shortness of breath, and sneezing. An anaphlyactic reaction can occur in hypersensitive pts. I'm not sure how it compares to pepper spray with regards to onset and severity of irritant effects. Depending on the brand of wasp spray, there may be carbamate insecticides, organophosphates and/or hydrocarbons. Both the carbamates and organophosphates could cause cholinergic toxicity depending on the extent of exposure.

2. If the person using were to experience either blowback (wind) or even the aggressor using it on them, what is the first aid to remedy exposure. For exposures to pyrethrins, both skin and eye exposures would require decontamination via flushing with copious amounts of water. For inhalation exposure, remove the pt from the source of exposure and give O2 if necessary. Typically systemic toxic effects do not occur unless large quantities are ingested since they are not well absorbed through the skin. If organophosphates or carbamates are present, the toxicity could be more significant such as bradycardia, vomiting, diarrhea, bronchospasm, respiratory failure, seizures, and increased secretions therefore the pt would need immediate medical care.

Because of the different compounds that could be in various wasp sprays, toxic effects could vary and I would not recommend substituting the pepper spray for wasp spray.

There you have it folks, the straight skinny from an expert. In a similar vein, I always tell people who take classes with us; no one technique alone is 100% effective. I'd say the same thing with pepper sprays and anything that you might use to substitute them. Your best tactic is going to be to fall back on the Principles that we work on in Fight Like A Girl (pay attention, stay with people, use barriers, get help, make space, and never fight on his terms). Hope this helps clears things up some.

Stay Safe!

Sunday, December 27, 2009

What people are saying about Fight Like A Girl...

Selected feedback:
  • Thank you so much for teaching me this! It made me feel so much more confident now.
  • The steps were realistic and helpful - I enjoyed the class so much.
  • Thank you so much, you pretty much just saved my life.
  • It was lots of fun and I feel more confident if it ever happens to me. Thank you!
  • Thank you so much for working with me, despite my fears, working through these techniques has helped to empower me.
  • This course should be taught to every girl in school.
  • I liked doing the techniques on the Redman Suit.
  • I had a very great time! It was fun learning how to defend yourself!
  • The class rocked! Both my mother and I are very pleased with what we learned. I am looking forward to learning more and practicing more. I eventually want to take Girls on Guard.
  • Thank you Brian and Eileen!!! for yesterday's training.
  • Great Job, learned alot.
Well we are pretty much done for 2009. It was a busy year and we have continued to grow with our program, community and repertoire of classes. Our goal was to run at least 1 class per month and we easily surpassed that number by early fall.

Look for us in 2010 with more Fight Like A Girl, Girls on Guard, Child Awareness Rapid Escape training. We'll also be adding a women's handgun course that is a combination of psychological training, realistic targets, and Fight Like A Girl material - which we're still trying to find a name for. Email us if you have ideas. ;-)

Stay Safe!
Brian & Eileen & Crew

Sunday, November 29, 2009

Like CPR?

Awhile back I had the opportunity to attend an Outdoor Survival Course through the Northeast Ohio Primitive Living Center. Great program... everything you would see Les Stroud do on SURVIVORMAN was taught in this course. Some of the thingsw e learned to do was how to make a small fire and then wrap a blanket around yourself and create a chimney for the smoke wich would allow the small fire to heat you. or how to salvage car seat material to use as insulation. The instructor often remarked: "you can read this in any survival or primitive living book, but until you do it... its another story. You have to do this, to understand it. Its entirely experiential".

I couldn't agree more! One of the key methods of learning is through what educators call kinesthetic learning. According to Wikipedia:
Kinesthetic learning is a teaching and learning style in which learning takes place by the student actually carrying out a physical activity, rather than listening to a lecture or merely watching a demonstration. Some people are visual learners, some kinesthetic learners, and some are auditory learners.
Interestingly, the least effective learning style is most often auditory learning. Adult learners lose interest in a lecture within 30 seconds to 2 minutes. For this reason the American Heart Association stopped using an instructor driven CPR course and now uses a video driven course. This is because unless an instructor is very good at presenting the course material it likely the class will lose interest. I know, I'm an AHA Instructor.

The other aspect of the class is that you actually have to learn how to do CPR by........(drumroll) doing it! Yes, thats right, unfortunately until we develop Matrix level technology that will allow us to 'mind dream' or do simple auditory/ visual learning - CPR, outdoor survival, and self-defense skills must all be developed the old fashioned way; repetition for muscle memory.

So drawing on success from other adult learning programs I have developed the Fight Like A Girl and the Child Awareness Rapid Escape courses to work on similar principles. Thats why in my programs you will here few war stories and we will concentrate on developing YOUR Potential.

As the old saying goes; "I can show you the door, but you must go through it".

Stay Safe!



Monday, November 9, 2009

Teaching our children to fight...

When I grew up I was always taught not to get in fights, just walk away. Sound advice, if you grew up in the 1950s; unfortunately that doesn't work for today's society. Even more so it is dangerous to advise children NOT To fight. Why?

I love Bill Gates marketing slogan; "I'm a PC". Because for the most part thats very true. What we program into our heads is what we get back. Thats why I feel its very important that we need to build a defensive program into our children, one that is based on resistance and fighting back against predators. Yes I will concur with the naysayers that a 3 year old may not be able to fight back effectively against an adult predator. But giving them the building blocks (physical skills) and doing regular training on these skills that child will have developed the muscle memory to fight if they are attacked/ abducted later in life. If we tell our children they shouldn't fight but then we expect them to fight for their life at a later time when a rapist or child molester tries to abduct them - haven't we really sent them a mixed message? We teach our children safety all of the time; biking, swimming, fire, first aid, hazards, etc. The time to enable our children is when their programming is still young and when they have the time to practice and in-grain self-protection skills that will serve them later in life.

Now, please let me caveat my words - this isn't to say that we must teach them how to be cruel little monsters that go around inflicting harm on other people because we have taught them to. But rather to temper realistic self defense training with a firm moral compass. While my children have been taught to fight back, which includes where and how to strike someone to really hurt them - they are also taught and expected to know when to use the skills and in what context. This is the other end of training that parents must continue to be obligated to as well.

We ran a CARE Class last week with North Canton Community Education; where we had 15 boys and girls in the class and the parents were there as well (Thanks Mom and Dad!) - we taught them the basics of how to fight back against an abductor. Check out the video down below on some of the class material.

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

The Ugly Truth....

The Fourth Rule (or strategy concept) in Fight Like A Girl is to attract attention. The reason for this is that we are playing on the criminals fear that someone may be able to identify the attacker or they may be able to help. But we must never expect other people to help. Thats why you must fight for your life because, YOU ARE FIGHTING FOR YOUR LIFE. The Ugly Truth is that we live in a social culture that is in crisis - expecting people to help us is a recipe for disaster (there are a few courageous people out there - but they are few and far between). The story below illustrates what I am speaking to.

Witnesses Didn't Help Rape Victim

RICHMOND, Calif. (Oct. 27) - Police believe as many as a dozen people watched a 15-year-old girl get beaten and gang-raped outside her high school homecoming dance without reporting it.
Two suspects were in custody Monday, but police said as many as five other men attacked the girl over a two-hour period Friday night outside Richmond High School. "She was raped, beaten, robbed and dehumanized by several suspects who were obviously OK enough with it to behave that way in each other's presence," Lt. Mark Gagan said. "What makes it even more disturbing is the presence of others. People came by, saw what was happening and failed to report it." The victim remained hospitalized with non-life-threatening injuries.

Manuel Ortega, 19, was arrested at the scene and was being held on $800,000 bail for investigation of rape and robbery. He is not a student at the school. Richmond police Sgt. David Harris said he did not know if Ortega had retained an attorney. A 15-year-old student also was booked late Monday on one count of sexual assault, Gagan said. Police said the girl left the dance and was walking to meet her father for a ride home when a classmate invited her to join a group drinking in the courtyard. The victim had drank a large amount of alcohol by the time the assault began, police said.

Officers received a tip about a possible assault on campus and found the girl semi-conscious near a picnic table. Marin Trujillo, a spokesman for the West Contra Costa Unified School District, said there were four police officers and three school administrators monitoring the dance, but the assault happened away from the gym.

(source:http://news.aol.com/article/girl-gang-raped-at-richmond-california/737436)